marriage at 24. we've all thought about it.

Was texting, and I was happy.

back at Jiji's, baru balik from a kenduri kahwin, who was her neighbour as well as my relative.

Yesterday, I had a sorta conversation with my sister. The kind that was brief, which might have been a deep conversation, but it was just too weird to have one.

It was about, yes you might have guessed it due to my status update in facebook, it was about marriage. My sister's 27. Well, almost 27. She is in a steady relationship, yes. And there hasn't been real plans on getting married just yet.

Real plans as in REAL plans la.


She said this, which got me thinking. She said that when she was younger, she was thinking/planning on settling down like by the time she reaches 24/26. Like we all do. Haha, don't try to deny la eh, I can see through the comments received.

Every girl seems to be thinking about the same thing at this point of time. Marriage. MRN said once that girls, aged 18-20 will be wanting a partner most at that age. Due to hormonal changes perhaps? But still, I didn't get that earlier. Like I've stated in a previous post, I wasn't INTO like into marriages.


I have this awesomely lame theory. If I get married, I'll open doors to getting divorced. Which I don't want to, and will try to avoid it as much as possible. Avoiding it means not to get married, or even speak about it. Lame theory, right on. Of course I wasn't really thinking of having kids, looking forward to midnight cuddles etc, which makes my theory invalid.



But then again, ever since turning the BIG 0, it got worse, and I cannot at times believe myself thinking about it this frequent. It's true what my friend said, I'll be graduating next year(InsyaAllah) and I'll be working and then there will be all the questions that would sound like: "When are you getting married?" every time I go to family gatherings.

That will suck so bad.


And I am reallllyyyy not ready for that. No, seriously.


But what my sister said later, was the thing that caught me. She said that at 27, she doesn't want to get married. At that age, she realise that there is so much to life, that being married might just end it.

I get her, surprisingly. I get exactly what she means. She was saying that at my age, all we(women) think of is that there is one perfect person for us. Like he is our everything. Our best, our worst, our embarrassing moment, our ice-cream, our love, our lives, our mental and our physical. But that isn't true.

We ARE our everything. We own ourselves, we are our happy days, our rain, our storms. Thing is, it takes a long time to reach that level of understanding. We may have people in and out of our lives, but to them, we are just books.

Some books, are so compatible with our way of lives, with our taste. Some, not so compatible. Some, our diaries. But until(even after) we get married, it's pretty much redundant to be thinking of marriage. Cause we are gonna grow out of that naive thinking that at 24, we'll get married.


We'll realise that there are so many things to life. And I should just NOT type anything, that is about marriage anymore. I think this should be my last post on this.


I am hungry.

But I have no money can somebody just hire me?


Oh yeah, Iphone 4g is selling at 700 POUNDS.

yes, its about 3.5K. MYR that is.


Somebody bust the bank!